Thanksgiving is a very special time of year when families come together to express gratitude and create lasting memories. However, for divorced or separated parents with one living out of state, celebrating Thanksgiving with your children can be a bit more challenging. In this blog, Gross& Miller Attorneys at Law will share with you ways to make the holiday meaningful and memorable for your children despite the distance.
1. Plan Ahead and Communicate
Effective planning and communication are key when one parent lives out of state. Start by discussing your plans well in advance with your co-parent and children. Determine who will have the children for the Thanksgiving holiday and what the visitation or parenting time schedule will look like.
2. Be Flexible and Share the Holiday
Consider being flexible with your co-parent to share the holiday. If feasible, you could alternate years or find a way for the children to spend part of the day or the time the children have off from school for the Thanksgiving break with each parent. This allows your children to celebrate with both parents and enjoy the best of both worlds.
3. Celebrate Early or Late
If it’s not possible for the out-of-state parent to be with the children on Thanksgiving Day, celebrate the holiday a day or weekend earlier or later. The date on the calendar is not as important as the quality time spent together.
4. Make the Most of Virtual Celebrations
In today’s digital age, technology can bridge the gap created by distance. Consider hosting a virtual Thanksgiving gathering using video calls. Share the experience of preparing and enjoying a meal together, even if you’re miles apart.
5. Create Special Traditions
Establish new traditions to accommodate the unique circumstances of your family. Encourage your children to be a part of the planning process. Perhaps each parent can share a favorite family recipe, and the children can cook both dishes to enjoy the taste of both households.
6. Emphasize Gratitude
Thanksgiving is all about gratitude, so use this as an opportunity to teach your children about the value of being thankful. Ask them to make a list of things they’re thankful for and share it with both parents.
7. Send Special Care Packages
Even if you can’t be physically present, you can send special care packages to your children. Include handwritten letters, small gifts, or their favorite holiday treats to make them feel cherished and connected.
8. Encourage Storytelling
Sharing stories of past Thanksgivings, funny anecdotes, or cherished memories can create a sense of togetherness. It’s a way for children to feel connected to their out-of-state parent and the family history.
9. Focus on Quality, Not Quantity
Remember that it’s not the length of time spent together but the quality of that time that matters most. Be fully present when you’re with your children and engage in meaningful activities that create lasting memories.
10. Respect the Other Parent’s Time
Finally, respect the other parent’s time with the children during the holiday season. This demonstrates cooperation and a commitment to the well-being of your children. Avoid interfering or making last-minute demands.
Celebrating Thanksgiving when one parent lives out of state after divorce or separation can be a challenge, but with thoughtful planning and a focus on creating meaningful experiences, you can make the holiday special for your children. Remember that your ability to navigate this situation with grace and understanding sets a positive example for your children, teaching them the importance of love, cooperation, and gratitude even in challenging circumstances.
From our family to yours, Happy Thanksgiving!
Peter P. Gross, Esq. & Samantha Ashley Miller, Esq.
Gross & Miller
Attorneys at Law
770-563-0005
www.grossmillerfamilylaw.com
